19 Years

Dana & MichelleWow, another year down. I’m not surprised at all that Michelle and I have tacked another year onto our marital run. I’m 100% confident we’ll be together forever. I’m just amazed that it’s been so long already. Nearly half of my life. That’s a long freaking time.

I can still remember my buddy Jay and I talking at 18 years old. “I’m never getting married dude. It’s not worth it.”. Two years later I was married. Amazing how you can change your mind given the right set of circumstances. Never say never.

People always react in amazement when I tell them how long I’ve been married. I don’t know whether to be offended or proud. Are you amazed that we’ve been married so long in this day and age, or are you just amazed that somebody like me is still married? Or are you amazed that my wife would put up with me for so long???? And then the inevitable question comes; “How do you do it?”. Well, it’s magic of course.

Ok, it’s not magic. It’s actually a lot of work, patience, caring, love, tolerance, servitude, leadership, grace and most of all, faith. I’ve come to realize that as guys we are responsible for our wives well being. We are to love them as Christ loved the church. [Ephesians 5:25] And so how did Christ set this example? He taught, he guided, he healed, he showed compassion, and he died for us. That’s our example to follow.

And women have their role too. In my marriage Michelle has always been the compassionate one, the encourager, the supporter, the calming influence, the faithful and reliable one. I say this all the time, but I mean it. I married her because she’s a better person than I am.

But no marriage is perfect, and as people grow and change, money problems arise, or even medical problems occur, eventually the stuff hits the fan and every marriage is threatened. But when those times come, you really just have to hunker down, do your part, don’t expect anything back, and make up your mind that divorce is simply not an option, and eventually God brings you both through. I think both Michelle and I have done that over the course of our marriage, and now that we’re 19 years in, I think we’re having more fun together, and are more in tune with each other than ever.

So how are we celebrating our 19th anniversary? Well, I bought us bowling balls. I know, it sounds lame, but before you call me a typical loser male, it wasn’t my idea! I offered an expensive, romantic dinner and she suggested we use that money for custom fit bowling balls since we’re having so much fun bowling together every week. I can’t argue with that.

Here’s looking forward to year 20. Love you babe.